Friday, July 11, 2008

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

Well, started "Work" aka "SaiKang" at 4pm today. Helping out to arrange a total of around 4000 chairs? Went with my "Encik" (Warrent Officer) to collect some shirts for participants. Then, having an opportunity to start an interesting conversation with him while making our way there. It all started when I saw this BMW sport car, a long hair lady driving it.

Me : Wao, a nice BMW Sport Car!

Encik: Where? Where ar?

Me: There! Behind the Bus!

Encik: Orh...

Me: Wao! A long hair Lady driving it some more!

Encik: Tsk tsk tsk, well boy. Sometimes you've to see who's her father?

Encik: So choosing a correct girl with a correct Father-in-law is important you know?

Me: Ha Ha Ha! Opps, Encik... I bet you chose the wrong woman then?

Encik: Erm, maybe...Opps! =X
(*Warning* Above conversation is just something we crap only)

Well, of course the conversation doesn't stop here. We shared more. He's a Catholic and knowing I'm a Christian, we tend to have more things to say. He began to share about problems between him and his wife when they view many things in life. Little things like housework to talking to a sales girl. Most Men are more of a Logical being and a problem fixer while Most Women based more on their feelings, they are emotional being. From the Book Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, by John Gray

"A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results"

"A woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and quality of her relationships."

It's really interesting how a man and woman can fall for each other despite the so many differences in them. I wondered. Encik then shared that there are no perfect Man or Woman in this world. He said that when he went for pre-marriage councelling, the person shared that their Lovey Dovy feeling would soon passed in their first year of marriage. It's love that substain. So what's love then? Just like the marriage oath couples take infront of the altar. Here's an extract from a book by Max Lucado 3:16 the numbers of Hope.

[ ... I saw a shard of such love between an elderly man and woman who have been married for fifty years. The last decade has been marred by her dementia. The Husband did the best he could to care for his wife at home, but she grew sicker; he, older. So he admitted her to full-time care.

One day he asked me to visit her, so I did. Her room was spotless, thanks to his diligence. She, horizontal on the bed , was bathed and dressed, though going nowhere.

"I arrived at 6:15 a.m.," he beamed. "You'd think I was on the payroll. I feed her, bathe her, and stay with her. I will until one of us dies." Agape Love. ]

Agape Love : Less an affection, more a decision; less a feeling, more an action.

I was touched by this short story from Max L. This is Love.

Jedidiah; 8:55 PM